Saturday, October 27, 2012

Love, Marriage and all that

Recently, my sister and I were talking about marriage. She told me, "You have to get married. But not early." And I was like "Cool cool." all chilled. Then she says, "Find a guy from Canada! Then we can live together." And I was like "Cool cool."

Again, I have a cool mother. She said, "Anu, please find yourself a boyfriend." And I was like "Cool cool." (Bet you guessed my reaction). Mom continued, "But he has to be Hindu, Brahmin, Iyer if possible, okay?"

Sigh. Do you fall in love with specifications? It's not like I am going to ask the guy before I fall in love with him, "Are you Iyer? Do you live in Canada?" I'll just fall in love. I am not going to fall in love with him because of his geographical location but because of his personality; how he is as a person, how he treats me, what he likes, what we share in common and so on.

I recently read a quote:

"Much of the pain in life comes from having a life plan that you've fallen in love with, and when it doesn't work out, you become angry that you now have to pursue a new life plan. If you want to tame your inner demons, you must not become too attached to any particular life plan, and remain open to there being an even better, happier life plan."

Therefore, I cannot plan who I fall in love with. I can just fall in love.

Having said that, the rate at which I am going, I will eventually end up marrying someone my parents choose for me anyway. So this blogpost is for people who still believe they can find someone on their own :P Peace and love to one and all :)


  1. Thoooooooooo. Find yourself a boyfriend. Preferably one that's grown up.
    Ah, who am I kidding! They don't exist!!

  2. Anu i hope you find someone compatible with you :)

  3. Sometimes ... LOVE can be at first sight ... don't be stuck to one opinion ... yes I know I read your "disclaimer" at the end ... but just because we say stuff doesn't mean it has to happen that way ... people who LOVE you will say alot of stuff because they care ... in the end things will happen the way they were meant to ... I am a living example of that! ;)

  4. Read your own comment. Why you writing paragraphs when you're agreeing with me? "...but just because we say stuff doesn't mean it has to happen that way..." YES of course! And your example is the best one so far :D <3

  5. The epitome of it all: "But he has to be Hindu, Brahmin, Iyer if possible, okay?" Yes, I am pro-disclaimer too :)